- Your Grief is unique
- You are stuck in a moment in time, you remember EVERYTHING
- You grieve BECAUSE you loved
- Grief doesn’t fit into a neat and tidy box. Like a “Jack in a box” it can pop up uninvited, suddenly, often out of nowhere whenever it feels like it months, even years later.
- Grieving is not a linear process, there is no so-called grief cycle.
- Grief can be: demanding, relentless, insidious, imposing, scary, all consuming.
- However much you try to avoid grief it finds a way to seep back in, it may be on a bus ride, aeroplane, in the bath, listening to the radio, a song playing in a shop, doing yoga.
- Grief is in your heart and can sap away all your energy.
- Grief isn’t there to cause you pain. It is there to support you find a deeper meaning and truth about your own life, your values, your path.
- Family and friends who love you generally do one of two things: Either they want to fix it and when they can’t it becomes awkward. Or if they are a true friend or someone who has experienced grief themselves they simply check in, demand nothing and allow you to just be.
- You learn who your real friends are.
- Grief will not go away. You can deny it entry, you can kick it out, swallow it, numb it down and yet it will raise its head again and again.
- You become stuck in the journey of Grief and yet it is a choice to remain in this state or get out.
- To get out you need to go on a different journey with the first step being acknowledgment.
- Bizarely to get through it you must grieve.
- You can’t move through Grief without touching it and accepting it.
- You don’t have to navigate through grief alone.
- Life will not be the same again but it can be meaningful.
As a Grief Coach I am here to support you through your un-resolved grief to help move you from the pain to acceptance of the continuance of your own life and to take action to embrace your own hopes and dreams. If you would like to take that first step towards to a better understanding of your grief, then make me a channel of your peace.
